:: Minoru Hokari Memorial Scholarship Funds ::
University of New South Wales (UNSW):
International House Minoru Hokari Memorial Scholarship
1. About the scholarships
2. Minoru Hokari and the International House(PDF)
3. Donation form
4. An important tax information for the US residents
*** It applies only for more than US$500 donation.
5. A message from Yuki Hokari (The Speech at the First Award Ceremony on 2004. 11.13)
I am Yuki Hokari, the older sister of Minoru Hokari, who passed away in May this year after living with cancer for 10 months.
Probably I should say that he fought against cancer, but it seems to me that he tried to live with cancer and fight against chemotherapy.
Thank you very much for giving me the opportunity to address you today in this wonderful occasion.
When I heard news from Donald and Dr. Lundy about this memorial scholarship, I felt this is more than perfect
for the memory of his short, but fulfilled life. As everyone says, his life truly exemplified the values of international relationship.
My brother obtained a bachelor and master degree at Hitotsubashi University in Tokyo and came to Australia in 1996 to study Australian
Aboriginal culture and history. He first came to this University of New South Wales and lived at the International House. His supervisor
moved to Australian National University, so he finished his PhD at ANU in 2001.
Since he got diagnosed with Lymphoma, a lymph cancer, last July, I have received the number of e-mails from his friends.
I noticed many of them were from his friends in International House. They seem to be back in their home countries, but shared
many precious memories of Minoru with me and showed me a lot of love and support for him.
I have lived in the United States for the past 10 years with an American husband and 3 year old son. Mino's professor in Japan
told me that I inspired him to study abroad. I remember Mino told me he had a struggle with his English and based on my experience
I advised him to watch as many movies as possible, to find someone who is patient and kind enough to deal with his poor English,
and just not to give up for at least one year. It is very hard to live in a foreign country, but once you overcome the initial set
of struggles, your world widens enormously. I know that from my own experience and I can see my brother achieved it wonderfully.
I want to share a little story with you. I believe this is Mino's little secret for better relationships. Unlike my brother, I am easily
angered, and I often complained to him about my run-ins with my husband, my parents and in-laws. Of course, I was fishing for sympathy,
but instead he would always say:
"Yuki, I understand how you feel, but I also understand how the others feel. They aren't blameless,
but neither are you. So, what to do? First, you should take a hard look at your own shortcomings, and do what you can to solve the
problem from your end. Then, once they see you're making an effort, maybe they'll change their attitude as well. Of course, they may
not change at all. But at least you've done everything you can."
Every time I would shoot back, "What d'you think I am, some kind of saint?" or "Why should I always be the one to change my attitude?"
In this respect, Mino could be rather unsympathetic toward his family - but I think it was only because he believed that unless he
could convince his own family members to change their attitudes, he could never gain the understanding of friends and acquaintances
and of the world at large.
Since my brother passed away, I've had about three arguments serious enough to threaten my relationship with each of those people.
When I was done yelling and screaming, I took a deep breath, wondering what to do next. That was when I heard Mino's voice.
And when I asked myself, "How would he handle this? What would he say? How would he act?" I saw what I needed to do - and in
each case, the situation was then resolved.
I believe his advice to me was his basic theory and secret for better relationships. He must have applied this secret to various
relationships, such as his friends from all over the countries, his academic fellows, and of course, his aboriginal friends.
Also, he must have applied it to his work to fill the gap between the historical truth and facts from the western academic
standpoint and aboriginal histories described by aboriginal people's point of view. He was pursuing "historical truthfulness"
a concept proposed by Tessa Morris-Suzuki, rather than just "historical truth."
I wish I had been able to say to him when he was still here, "Thank you, Mino, you were right. I followed your advice and it
worked out perfectly." But I realize that he will live on in me in this way and continue to be a part of my life.
On behalf of my parents and my dearest brother, I want to say Thank you very much again to Dr. Robert Lundy, Donald Jenner
and everyone in the scholarship committee to make this happen and thank you very much for coming here today.
Special Thanks to Dr. Robert Lundy, Donald Jenner and the Scholarship Committie